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Friday, September 30, 2011

What have I learned in 37 years?

Today is my birthday. And for a brief moment I actually forgot. Probably because I wanted to. I don't like 37. I don't like getting older, who does? So in order to get through this birthday, and my (hopefully) many more to come, I will think of the positive things I've learned and continue to be grateful and happy for what I have. Here are some things I've thought of...

-Your life could always be worse. Someone always has it harder than you do. Even when you spend your entire day crying on and off, as I have done PLENTY in my 37 years, someone else always has a better reason to cry.

-What goes around comes around, and karma exists. I know this is such an old saying, but I've seen it happen, especially in the last few years. And I don't like to admit this, but sometimes I relish in what karma does to the jerks in this world. Especially when they've wronged you or someone you love.

-NEVER EVER EVER go into business with family. Bad things happen. Brothers & sisters get hurt. Kids get hurt. Parents get hurt. People talk smack. Neighbors whisper. People hold grudges and holiday dinners are never the same, and in some cases (ours) holiday dinners will never happen again. Sad. For everyone involved.
-Teach your children well. They are a direct reflection of you, and if you have any doubt about this, wait until they repeat some of the things you say in front of respectable people who didn't need to know "Mom said she'd rather stick needles in her eyes than spend a day with so-and-so but she had to and that's why she's here."

-Don't be so trusting. But then again, keep your mind open to trusting. It's taken me a long time to find out who I can and can't trust. I've stuck my foot in my mouth a lot. I've been hurt. We all have.

-When you feel like you're about to lose it, get away from your children and anyone you love because you probably are. And you will say things you don't mean and people will get hurt.

-Tell people you love them, and that you care about them. You never know when an air conditioner is going to fall out of a three story building onto your loved one's head and kill them.

-Spend more time outdoors instead of in. It's just better for your soul. Don't lose sight of that little girl or boy you used to be. And if you have children, you're so lucky because you have a chance to be a kid again!

-Try your hardest to be on the same page as your spouse. Nothing good comes from lack of communication. I love my Ray but he's not good at the talking thing. And I talk too much. Find a happy medium. It's taken us a long time to do so, and so many hurt feelings could've been avoided by simply taking ten minutes to TALK. Finding time to do anything is so hard when you have kids. But the best thing you can do for your kids is to have a happy, healthy marriage. That means work. Sometimes people don't want to work. Get over it. And if you're not happy in your marriage, then do something about it. Life is too short to wake up next to someone you want to slap. Life. Is. Too. Short.

And that sentence brings me to my last thought...LIFE IS TOO SHORT. Be grateful for what and who you have. Accept what you're not and love who you are. Try to be more positive (I struggle with this) and turn those molding lemons into lemonade before it's too late and you have to throw them away.


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